A cook and a nanny There an interesting post here by babycenter sara
mcginniswhich features a link to j lo twins.The photos show j lo and marc
anthony in designer couture, smiling in adoration at their newborns.J lo has the
hair, skin and clothes of a goddess.Marc anthony looks like his only job is to
stare lovingly at the fruit of his loins.Clearly, in their photo shopped post
partum world, yukky smells, tired eyes and dirty houses don exist. A lot of
commenters are sickened by the unrealistic images the new parents are
portraying.As for me, i say who gives a hoot?If i could have a maid, a cook and
a nanny, i take it also. There something to be said for reverse discrimination
in my opinion.Just because people have money, does not mean that they are
snobby.Yes, with cash comes some mixed up priorities, but not always.I can only
speak for myself.When i first had kids, i couldn afford a maid.I was on a tight
budget.I shopped very sparingly.Sometimes i wanted more luxuries, but i was
happy.It was what it was.Some of my friends had more than me, some didn my
husband got his big promotion, and i started working, the first thing i did was
hire a maidtwice a month.It turned out to be, hands down, the best thing i have
ever done for myself.I don defend my decision, nor do i feel like i or am
teaching my kids that you can buy your way into a perfect house.I can afford it
now, and i feel i deserve it.Also, knowing that i have someone helping me out
every two weeks, i can get over some minor irritations in the house because back
up support is coming. If i could have a cook i take it!It would give me more
time to read with my kids.And eat more healthy.It doesn mean i wouldn enjoy
cooking with them, or even make them clean up right alongside the cook, buti
take some help if i could. Same with a nanny.I might not ever leave the house if
she were here, but it would sure be nice to have someone run a bath with one
child while i play blocks with another.Or run to the coffee shop while the kids
are sleeping, knowing there another watchful eye in the home. If i had all this
help, would i somehow be less of a mother?Not in the slightest.I know who i am,
and i don need to be super martyr mother and scream to the world that i better
than other people because do it all myself do you think?Would you take extra
help if you could afford it?And if you can afford it, do you ever feel guilty?If
you can afford it, do you feel deprived?Or, even if you could get all the help
in the world, would you not do it because you think real mothers should do it
all themselves? I love to hear.And j lo, if you reading, congratulations.Your
place looks nice.Let do a playdate soon!If you want to come to my place, that
cool, too.Just come on a friday after the maid has been here. Photo courtesy of
people magazine, courtesy of sara mcginnis link from her blog Share on
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to a friendcomments(20) Lol martyr mother a lot of those around here!I so agree
with you on all your points.I too recently hired a twice a month cleaner, it
surprisingly affordable, and why not have the help if you can?And if i could
afford the cook and nanny, i probably would go for it.I don understand how that
equates to being less of a mother somehow.This is the only time in history where
the mother is unrealistically expected to do and be everything with minimal
help.You know the saying takes a village to raise a child there a reason for
that! Eh, j lo has the kids she been dreaming for years about, and i couldn be
happier for her.I would be more concerned with marc anthony skipping along
behind the pram in the pink cardigan. As for the maid situation, before baby, we
had a cleaner twice a month.After baby, we miss the cleaner every other week
when we have to make time to mop the floors and such. As for the cook situation,
it would be nice to put someone else in charge of making healthy meals for my
daughter and i could actually sit down with her at the table and eat together
instead of standing in the kitchen putting together a slapdash meal(Turkey
slices count as protein, fish crackers as carbs, need to hunt down the veggie
and fruit)While she sits wailing in the high chair starving and shouting since
daddy was stuck in traffic and couldn get home in time to start the dinner.
Nanny?No way!A nanny would only get paid for doing nothing since i really do
enjoy playing with my daughter and even changing the not so nice diapers. I
doubt any of us would quickly turn down help with the domestic drudgery that too
often eclipses the tastier moments of life, whether they are with our kids, our
partners, or(Ooh my)All alone. But i was freaked out by those j lo pictures
before i ever read the blog about them.I picked up the magazine in the
supermarket and i felt sick to my stomach.How many people readers can afford any
help at all? It might be nice to have a housecleaner come once in a while.But
that doesn mean there is anything right about showing poor cheap ralph
lauren and middle class moms an over the top, insane, unrealistic
lifestyle.I thought i might see those babies surrounded by cute receiving
blankets and colorful toys, but they are surrounded by silver platters and
ridiculous luxury accouterments.The doting parents are there, as they should be,
but the context makes it seem hollow and weird. I think the clearly fake images
are a representation of everything that is wrong with this country.We ralph lauren sale
UK buy what we can afford, from the first time homeowner to the shadow
banking hedge fund manager.And our stars sell it back to us, fake and sad as can
be. Well, i away from my family and my husband is at work all day so some help
would be nice.Especially, someone to help me clean.I mean, half the time, i cant
even pee without my son crying!What bothered me about jennifer pics is that they
seem soo fake.She not the only celebrity to have pics taken and she not the
richest.We dont know what happens behind the scenes, she probably just wants the
best for them.I just hope she knows what really matters or she miss out on real
memories with her children There a antoinette aspect to the jlo pix that i find
really off putting.Why does she need to be photographed in a $25, 000 couture
gown while feeding a newborn?Do we really need to see the $2, 000 silver rattles
laid out ostentatiously in front of her?I agree with the poster who said that
the babies seemed more like props in some bizarro motherhood fantasy than real
children.Who cares if she has extra help?That not the issue for me.It the
wasteful and pointless display of wealth at a time when millions of people are
losing their homes, living in poverty, and going hungry at night.She entitled to
be rich and i wish i were rich, too.However, how many babies could have been fed
today with those ridiculously expensive baby rattles? I have found the wealthier
children to often be more discipline than the poorer children.For the first few
years of our marriage, we lived in a low income area.It was shocking the
children who were out all hours of the night.Even when a child was caught
vandalizing or harrassing someone or stealing, the parents were often self
righteous and didn care.We also saw children often being given everything and
anything they want.I saw very few limits being put on most children.We moved to
a more middle income area after that.There we found a mix of kids being raised
with moderation, and children being given excess, but i really rarely saw the
spoiling and lack of discipline going on there that i saw in the low income
area. Btw, these articles about wealthy people in expensive clothes with
expensive things are not forced on us.If you read those articles(Which i have
not)Then you clicked on a link or picked up a magazine.You can tell by the cover
what is in it. We live in a wealthier area now.I keep waiting for my children to
want to know why so n so has such n such and they don these are children in
families with far less means than ours.Their parents and grandparents shower the
children with so many material things and so little discipline.But my children
never ask.I guess this is because my children have not been raised with a sense
of entitlement.That princess entitlement upbringing only hurts children in the
long run. I think if you can afford any help at all and you want cheap ralph
Lauren polos it, then go for it. Personally, i about to have my third
baby.Unlike my other two babies, this time around both my husband and i are
entitled to receive paid maternity / paternity leave me for 12 weeks and him for
14 weeks.We are definitely taking it(Consecutively)And because we are not losing
a great deal of income for six months we are keeping the nanny for the
duration.This means that not only does the nanny keep her job, we get 4 hours of
help every day(We usually have her for two 10 hour days a week, but she happy to
stretch her 20 hrs a week over 5 days). To me, this is the difference between
what will hopefully be a relaxed and enjoyable maternity leave and really
feeling as if i struggling with three young children by myself. As for j lo and
other celebrities, although i agree with some of the comments above, what the
point in feeling envious?We know celebs lead unrealistic lifestyles;We know we
never have the money to match them honestly, so what?It will never diminish the
love i feel for my children, and i certainly don feel like i giving them a worse
start in life because they don have sterling silver rattles. What wrong with a
photo shot that resembles a motherhood fairytale?The magazine is for
entertainment anyway.Do we really want to see her in a spit up stained
sweatsuit?I would love a fun, if unrealistic photo shoot of my family.It would
make me laugh for years to come. As far as help, i agree that if you want to and
can afford it, go for it.Whether its time away for yourself for a coffee and a
good book once a week or getting the house cleaned so you don have to worry what
your child just ate off the floor and still enjoy a trip to the park.
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